New Year, New Love

Tips For A New Love Life In The New Year

A new year means a new you, and a new approach to your dating and love life. Whether you’re single and ready to get in the dating scene or you’re spending time with someone and wondering if the relationship has a real future, it’s time to make positive changes and pull yourself out of the dating rut you’ve been in.

Below are helpful tips to help you find love and happiness just in time for Valentine’s Day:

  • Be Happy with You. When you’re in a dating rut, it might be time to take a hard look at your own life. Build a full life, professionally and personally, that makes you feel happy and fulfilled, as it will change your perspective on dating and finding a partner. That special someone will be adding to your life instead of filling a void, and you won’t be looking to that person to create your happiness.
  • Know Yourself. There’s the ideal partner according to TV, romance novels and even your mom, but if you know yourself – your interests, values, dreams, strengths and weaknesses – you’re better able to evaluate whether potential love interests will be a good fit.
  • Make Your Intentions Clear. If you haven’t told the person you are dating of your intentions, she/he might not know your true feelings. Knowing how to express feelings is vital if you want to feel close to people and to sustain a relationship. So tell her/him!
  • Be Yourself. Being genuine and true to yourself is the only path to a successful dating life. Enlist your friends to help connect you with people who fit your personality, or take up a pastime that appeals to the real you rather than the person you think someone would prefer.
  • Loosen your expectations for the perfect mate. The perfect person doesn’t exist. If you have a long list of criteria for your dream date, chances are you might never get to check off all the boxes on that list. Be a little more realistic about the traits you are looking for when dating.
  • Be open to meeting someone anywhereWhile many people take part in online dating groups, don’t limit yourself from meeting someone at the local coffee shop, work, community volunteer initiatives or the gym, or network online, through your friends, and anywhere else that is appropriate. Take a multi-pronged approach to meeting new people.
  • Try new activities. Instead of always meeting for lunch or hanging out in front of the TV watching Netflix movies together, try doing an activity together, like taking a cooking or art class. Sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone and change things up in your life and your relationship.
  • Recharge. Don’t get too focused on dating and finding a partner. Remember there’s more to life. Arrange a friends’ dinner out, dive into that new book, sign up for that kickboxing class, head to the local art museum-whatever floats YOUR boat. Giving yourself some “me” time will allow you to reconnect and regroup.
  • Change Up The Type of Person You DateIf you continue to find yourself in the same spot in each relationship (one that doesn’t move forward), it’s time to take a look at who you’re dating. What traits do they all seem to have in common? (good-looking to the point of being too self-centered, emotionally unavailable, too immature, etc.). Try and date outside the box you have created.

About the Author
Justin Lavelle is the social media and blog content director for BeenVerified helps people discover, understand and use public data in their everyday lives. It is a great tool to locate relatives and friends you’ve lost touch with and want to bring together over the holidays. The company is a leading source of online background checks and contact information. BeenVerified allows individuals to find more information about people, phone numbers, email addresses and property records in a way that’s fast, easy and affordable.

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